Sunday, August 12, 2007

We went to the wedding of our niece on Saturday and had a great time but I came to the conclusion that I'm getting old.

Why's that you may wonder? Two words: The Music. I can rock with the best of them. I grew up listening to The Who, The Stones, Aerosmith, Led Zeppelin. I enjoy all kinds of music; soft, hard, R&B, some country, classical, bagpipes but I don't listen to very much current music at all.

This wedding had a lot of loud music I didn't know. I had a headache when we left.

It reminds me of a conversation that I had with a friend the other day about May/December romances. I don't mean someone 10 years younger or older, I guess I don't understand what people see in each other when one is 20 plus years older or younger. That's a whole genreation apart. He said maybe men like trophey wives and trophey wives like powerful men. I think young women are looking for a father figure or someone that has been through lifes trials and is ready to take care of someone.

What do you have in common? Where are the shared experiences? What happens when one is 80 years old and the other is 40? Are you his nurse then? What about children? A 20 something may tell her 40, 50, 60 year old beau that she doesn't want any children but that can and will probably change. If you acquiesce you will be an old man for most of said child's life. I'm sure that there are many older man/younger woman or older woman/younger man relationships out there and I'm sure many work. I think of Hugh Heffner and his 3 young girlfriends, gross. For me I'd much rather chat and get to know someone around my own age plus or minus 10 years. More age difference than that and what would I talk about? Of course this is just my opinion, I certainly can't tell someone what they should do, it's a personal thing. Only you can say if it's right for you. (Hi John) I can just point out the facts.

By the way, isn't the bride beautiful?? Notice her husband's cuff links! :)


Kitten Herder said...

I totally agree with you. I think ten years in either direction is about my limit. Every now and then I meet someone who falls out of that range who I have a lot in common with, but it's hard to imagine sharing a life with someone with that much experience difference in the mix. And, by 'experience', I don't mean actual age or years. People of different generations really have experienced life differently. Where's the shared history or cultural references?

Sorry to hear about your music headache. Maybe they were just playing really bad music? I grew up with The Who and The Stones, too. But, I've adopted new music all along the way. Plus, I like a lot of music that is 'before my time'. Good music is timeless, as is bad music. Sadly, a lot of people listen to stuff that their peers tell them they should like, and they just follow along.

john said...

As i was reading this post i just knew you were going to slip my name in there lol.
As always you bring up some very good points.
Thats why you're my voice of reason.
But this time i need a smack in the head to go along with the voice lol.
just keep on telling me one thing......CHILDREN.