Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Your Reputation

There are some things in life that no matter how much you matured you can't escape. Once you have a reputation, no matter how you've changed that will stick, people will always go back to it. If you ruin it, it's so very hard to repair. Growing up I will admit that I was a Diva. After all I am a first born. I wanted things my way, when I wanted it. I knew how to make a fuss. Can it be said that I was a difficult child? Yes, maybe so. How about strong willed? That too. Out spoken? Yep.
But if asked to point out some of my finer qualities, I am also kind, loyal, responsible and generous. I like to take care of people. I consider myself a leader. If you're into all that astrology stuff my sign is Leo and I am a true Leo almost to a tee. The only thing I'm not like as a Leo is that I don't enjoy the spotlight, I prefer to remain in the background and I don't go around tooting my own horn. But I will just this one time...
Take my job for instance, I'm well liked, loved even. Teachers try to have me assigned to their classrooms. I have a way with children and often work with the most difficult kids. I manage to build a relationship with them and get more results where many other have failed. Even their parents are surprised. I have a big envelope of cards and notes from my principal, teachers, parents and students pointing out my good qualities as well as thanking me. Someday someone will find my envelope and see how much I meant to others. I subscribe to the thought; don't let the right hand know what the left hand is doing.
I have a natural ability to make people feel good about themselves, I don't know how I do it, it just happens.
My mother-in-law once told me that she knows when she receives a gift from me it will be perfect. That comes from listening and observing. I have posses those skills as well as a good sense of intuition and am good at reading between the lines.
I don't call people and tell them when I do something good or make someone feel better. I don't post about it. I'm not a me, me, me person. I'm not a bragger about myself but will brag til the cows come home about my kids.
So enough of this about me, back to my original topic. All these years later I've grown and matured into a pretty decent adult in my opinion but if I state my mind or viewpoint within my own family I'm immediately reminded of how I was as a teenager. Whenever there's strife in my family it somehow gets turned into my fault. If there's a disagreement between my sisters you can bet that one in particular will make me responsible for it. Oh those family dynamics but that's for another post.


Kitten Herder said...

Family dynamics are harder to change that reputations. I'm sure you could get a lot of comments on that one.

I had a reputation for being a drama queen of sorts in college. It actually cost me a friendship in my mid 30's (she had had enough of my drama). Over the years I reigned myself in. I figured out how not to take some things so seriously. About six months ago that friend contacted me to see how things were going. We've both changed. We're not the friends that we were once, but we are once again friends.

So, you can change your reputation. Family dynamics is a horse of a completely different color.